Wedding Ceremony Ideas
Do you need some wedding ceremony ideas to get your plans rolling? Whether the ceremony is short and sweet or will be a long, elaborate affair - it is something you will always treasure.
Create an Outline of Ceremony Ideas
The officiant or minister of your wedding can be a great help in outlining your wedding ceremony ideas. Schedule a time to talk with him or her and take lots of notes. Ask ahead of time if he can have several ceremony samples for you to look over during your appointment with him.
Begin by letting the minister know if you want a formal or casual wedding ceremony format
Jot down ideas of what you actually want to do. Do your ceremony ideas include children? You may want to make special arrangements for the mom or dad to be waiting at the front the church to take charge of the child. Would you like a special poem or reading to be made? You may have to arrange for a special mic or podium for the reader.
Are your attendants going to be escorted by the groomsmen or come down the aisle solo?
It is better to have a firm plan in mind before the rehearsal night so everything can go smoothly.
One of the most emotional ceremony ideas we had was to put a Powerpoint slide show together for the guests to view after the parents had come down the aisle.
Watching the couple grow up in front of their eyes and turned into engagement photos had most of the people in tears before it was over.
My son-in-law created a "morphed" image in the very end. It was of each of them
changing from a baby into an adult through rapidly moving pictures. It ended with them together in an engagement photograph.
Wedding Music Ceremony Ideas
I'm sure most every bride has special love songs in mind to be played on her wedding day. It is very important again to check with your minister. You may even want to take wedding ceremony music samples in for him to hear.
One bride I know was dismayed (after recording and planning out her ceremony music)that the church she was getting married in did not allow secular music in the wedding chapel.
Ceremony music should always be discussed BEFORE you pay a deposit on the church.
Flowers and Candle Decor
Wedding church decorations can prove to be a headache sometimes. Be sure to find out everything ahead of time that is allowed (or not) inside the sanctuary.
Once again, don't rent that $85 candleabra only to find that the church has banned open flames in the wedding ceremony.
I serviced one church that allows the unity candle and candleabras, but banned individual candles down the aisle. Don't assume anything - ask!
Another good note: if you do have open flames with wax candles, always lay a piece of clear cellophane under the candleabra. A shop I worked out of once received a large cleaning bill for dripping wax on the carpet. The cellophane is invisible to the guests, but may save you a cleaning bill later.
Many wedding sites are also sensitive about water damage. For instance, you may not be permitted to place a vase on a grand piano because of water drips. (These are requirements that a florist is usually aware of. But if you are planning to do your own wedding flowers - you will be responsible for this.)
Ceremony Ideas for Lighting the Unity Candle
Lighting a unity or family candle is a lovely tradition in a ceremony. Is it usually after repeating the "I do's". Then, during by wedding music or song, the unity candle is lit by the bride and groom.
Another heartfelt moment is the presentation of a rose to the couple's parents. If this is a second wedding or the parents are deceased, the presentation can be made to the children.
If there are children involved, you may want to allow them to participate in the candle lighting.
One big tip - light the candle with wax tapers - not candles. Once candles have burned for a while they create a hollow filled with melted wax. As the couple tip their candles forward, this wax can pour over the wick of the unity candle and make it difficult to light.
Having a Sand Ceremony
A wedding ceremony idea that is beginning to gain popularity is the wedding sand ceremony. Instead of lighting a unity candle, the couple has two clear vases filled with individual colors of sand. They alternate pouring this decorative sand into a center vase, layering colors. The sand can be colored to match the wedding theme. If you still like the idea of lighting a candle, have a tea light handy, pick it up and tuck it into the top of the sand and light as you would a unity candle.
Besides giving a beautiful momento vase, this sand ceremony idea is ideal for outdoor weddings or beach weddings where it can be a problem keeping a candle lit.
Ceremony Ideas for a Wedding Blessing
One of the wedding ceremony ideas closest to my heart is the blessing. You may choose only to kneel and having the minister pronounce a blessing on your marriage.
I love the idea of the children or parents coming forth at this precious time to lay hands upon the newly married couple. Perhaps, if not too emotional, the father of the bride or groom would pronounce the blessing as in olden times. Ceremony ideas that include family members can make everyone feel that they have an important part in your wedding.
Bible Verses for Wedding Ceremony
The most popular scripture is probably from Matthew 19:4-6 (New International Version)
Haven't you read, he replied, that at the beginning the Creator made them male and female, and said, For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh? So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore what God has joined together, le man not separate. or
Mark 10:6-10 New Internation Version
But at the beginning of creation God made them male and female. For this reason a man will leave his father and mother to be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh. So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate.
(New International Version) Genesis 1:26,27,28,31
Then God said, "Let us make man in our image, in our likeness, and let them rule over the fish of the sea and the birds of the air, over the livestock, over all the earth, and over all the creatures that move along the ground." So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him, male and female he created them. God blessed them and said to them, "Be fruitful and increase in number; fill the earth and subdue it. Rule over the fish of the sea and the birds of the air and over every living creature that moves on the ground." God saw all that he had made, and it was very good. And there was evening, and there was morning--the sixth day.
(King James Version) Genesis 2:18-24
And the Lord God said, it is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him. And out of the ground the Lord God formed every beast of the field, and every fowl of the air; and brought them unto Adam to see what he would call them; and whatsoever Adam called every living creature, that was the name thereof. And Adam gave names to all cattle, and to the fowl of the air, and to every beast of the field; but for Adam there was not found an help meet for him. And the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam and he slept, and he took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh instead thereof. And the rib, which the Lord God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man. And Adam said, this is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man. Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife and they shall be one.
Ruth 1:16-17 NIV
But Ruth replied, "Don't urge me to leave you or to turn back from you. Where you go I will go, and where you stay I will stay. Your people will be my people and your God my God. 17 Where you die I will die, and there I will be buried. May the LORD deal with me, be it ever so severely, if anything but death separates you and me."
(New International Version) Ecclesiastes 3:1-8
There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under heaven: a time to be born and a time to die, a time to plant and a time to uproot, a time to kill and a time to heal, a time to tear down and a time to build, a time to weep and a time to laugh, a time to mourn and a time to dance, a time to scatter stones and a time to gather them, a time to embrace and a time to refrain, a time to search and a time to give up, a time to keep and a time to throw away, a time to tear and a time to mend, a time to be silent and a time to speak, a time to love and a time to hate, a time for war and a time for peace.
New International Version Song of Solomon 8:6-7
Place me like a seal over your heart, like a seal on your arm; for love is as strong as death, its jealousy unyielding as the grave. It burns like blazing fire, like a mighty flame. Many waters cannot quench love; rivers cannot wash it away. If one were to give all the wealth of his house for love, it would be utterly scorned.
My all time favorite is:
Corinthians 13:4-8 (New International Version)
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angers, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trust, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. But where there are prophecies they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away.
There are many more - your clergyman can help you with this as well.